Monday, October 11, 2010

misrepresenting myself

So today was supposed to be "Mommy Monday".  And it will week.  But not today.  There is this great quote:

"A man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault."  ~John Henry Newman

My new job is to remember this.  So often in life I find myself waiting for perfection, waiting to produce something that is faultless.  Suffice to say: I don't get a lot done.  ha ha ha.  But I'm serious.  I don't get as much done as I could.  Perhaps it would be best to say:

"My life contains a myriad of half done masterpieces hidden in closets and under beds."*

And I'm pretty sure that I'm the person who said that.  Though I could probably say it better.  So don't quote me on it until I perfect it.  I'll get back to you.  About that.  I mean.  You know what I mean.  I hope.

What was I saying?  Right.  Perfectionism.  It's nasty.  I don't mean to be a perfectionist.  It just likes me.  I mean, perfectionism would like me if one was to personify perfectionism thus making it able to have desires and preferences.  Which would be weird.  And now I am making even less sense than before.

Here's a quote I made up as a teenager (I like quotes...have you noticed yet?):

"Doing anything less than your best is misrepresenting yourself." 

Yikes, hey?  Double yikes considering I was only seventeen at the time I came up with that pretty little idiom.  Because you know what?  It isn't always true.  If I did my best ALL THE TIME, that, I think, would be misrepresenting myself.  I mean, people would start to think I have got it all together.  They would think I'm brilliant and flawless and do my dishes without fail before I go to bed every night.  They would think that *gasp* I make the bed every day!

Well.  I would like people to think this.  But it just isn't true.  Because the truth is: I'm not always doing my best.  I don't have the time, energy, or motivation.  But guess what?  No one does.  And maybe that's okay.  Maybe it's okay to do your best "considering".  Considering:

you're a mom
you work
you really really wanted (as in just had to) to stay up until two am watching Sex and the City
you have a headache
you couldn't find your car keys

you're human.

So how about this:

I'm going to do my best sometimes.  But most times I'm just going to share the me I am with the you you are.    

This post doesn't feel especially finished; but I'm going to stop now.  Because I don't feel like writing anymore.

outfit details:

grey jeans, rw&co.: $1.95
vintage crochet cardi: gift from Lee
scarf: gift from Lee
shoes, naturalizer: $30

heart: Kimberellie

*I think it's about time I took them out, dusted them off, and hung them on the walls.

The price tag from my pants.  It was just too good of a deal.  I had to take a picture.


  1. Kimberellieee!! This is EXACTLY the reasoning behind my blog break. Aside from the vacationing and midterms, I just feel so blah and un-me lately. It's less about my blog and more about life in general. SO. My new plan of attack is changing things up. I'm working out everyday for 45 minutes and getting up at 7am instead of 10am and eating better and studying more. Yeahhh!

  2. Love that scarf, and what a bargain on the pants!

    Sorry to hear you've been feeling a bit blah about blogging, think that all hits us at a point.


  3. I know just how you feel. I am trying to learn not to put so much pressure on myself, but it is hard to let go of trying to be 'perfect'.

  4. Personally, I find perfection to be overrated. Perfect people are boring. :)

  5. Your blog is always fabulous, if you just posted a photograph of your amazingingly infectious smile we'd still be happy.
    The trousers (pants sounds so rude!) are a fantastic bargain and an enviable fit. xxx

  6. Um, WHAT?!? I almost don't believe that price tag. You're amazing.

    Loved reading this post. i'm the same way - I often don't do things because I know it's not going to be perfect the first time so I do it cleaning ;D

    CLOTHED MUCH, a modest fashion blog

  7. I was reading this and it was like I was reading my own thoughts! I'm a perfectionist too, and I can easily stress myself out for not giving my all 100% of the time. Thank you for the reminder that I don't have to! I agree with Kelly, perfection can be boring. So I'm going to try to embrace imperfection more. At least I'll try...
    Oh and I love the mix of pretty, light pieces with the leopard and leather. Lovely! And holy bargain on the pants!! If that's not perfection I don't know what is!

  8. Oh my god, I always feel this way and I'm not even a mom! I hate feeling like I'm not giving 100% to something, but I always want to do a million things. I love this setting, btw. And I love the special touches you added to this casual look, like the leopard scarf and the lace top.

  9. That is a crazy ass deal!
    I really love the second picture. You remind me of a cool, Russian spy.

  10. those pants...
    the leopard...
    and your curves...

    Y O W Z A


  11. wow, I was just going to comment how great the pants look on you. That's a real bargain!

    Don't worry about perfection, you'll drive yourself crazy. Be who you are, we still love you.

  12. I love your cardigan, but I think I probably said that before. Still, I do.

    I've never been a perfectionist because all I expect out of myself is the best I can do at any given time, and I secretly think that everything I do is therefore my best and wonderful. Too bad the world doesn't agree, but the world is wrong, so yay me!

    And YAY YOU. I never fail to enjoy your blog. You are the one and ONLY Kimberellie Miss Furnellie I know, and your outfits and blog always seem pretty perfect to me.

  13. You look amazing - great figure!! and wow what a bargain with the pants.

  14. I will only say that I 'm a recovering perfectionist.At one point I had made my life a misery and I didn't even know I was a perfectionist.If you want thinks to be perfect you do nothing with your life.I wouldn't have started my blog or the book I'm writing.I even hate the word perfect now.


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