Wednesday, June 30, 2010

don't worry, I know I'm fantastic





(Especially) Long Post Disclaimer: As always, if you don't want to/feel like/have time to read what I write, I am in no way offended. If you are just here to see clothes and baby pictures, feel free!!

don't worry, I know I'm fantastic

I think maybe some of you got the wrong idea from my last post and went away thinking that I DON'T know I'm fantastic. Well, I'm here to tell you: perish the thought! Because it simply isn't true. I do know I'm fantastic.

And not only that, I'm pretty sure most people I know and love would agree. And not only that, even if they didn't agree, I truly would not care. Because here's a secret I don't like to tell a lot of people (and now I shall tell the world): I am positive that if anyone were to truly know me, they would truly like me. I know, crazy hey?

Well, at least uncommon, if I am to believe all the pop psychology articles I've read and teen dramas I've watched. It seems that usually the opposite is true of people: they are afraid that if anyone ever got to truly know them, they wouldn't like them. At least that's what people say, isn't it? Well, I gotta tell you, for me the opposite is true. If you truly knew me: you would adore me.

Now, I'm being somewhat silly here. I tend to write in a manner that is more of a persona than the real me, FIY-if you haven't already noticed (you didn't really think I wanted to take over the world: here, did you?).

But there is some truth to this. I really do think that anyone who dislikes me, does so, because he/she does not understand me. In fact, I would wager this is true about most people. It's misunderstanding and incomplete understanding of one another that causes us to fear, distrust, and just not like, one another.

Misunderstanding about ourselves, our place in the universe, and each other, fuels hatred, insecurity, and jealousies. So often in our relationships and the advice we give one another we are the blind leading the blind, so to speak. Anyone ever read the novel Speaker for the Dead?

Well, in the novel, the Speaker for the Dead, instead of delivering a eulogy when a person dies, retells that person's life truthfully with nothing left out. The point is this: the truth, if delivered wholly without reservation and bias, frees us, not only to have compassion for one another, but also to have compassion for ourselves. I tend to agree.

Because even though I know I'm not perfect. I do know I am loved. And it is that love that makes me confident.

There's a verse in the Bible that just about sums it up: "If God is for us, who can be against us?" The love of God, the love of my husband, the love of my son, the love of my family and friends, all these loves: make me the person that I am. If I were only allowed one sentence to define myself, this would be it: I am loved.

And so when people are not loving toward me, when people accuse, and tear down, and are rude and demeaning, I just remember: I am loved. So I know that whatever they are thinking, they must be wrong. They must not be understanding me, seeing me clearly, knowing me truly. Because if they were, they would see: I'm fantastic.

So I think what I was trying to get across yesterday, wasn't so much that some people don't think I'm fantastic, but that some people do. And more so then that, I wanted to tell you all that I think YOU ladies are fantastic. I love visiting all your blogs and sharing all this with you! It is so nice to share this love of clothing, getting dressed up, fashion, ourselves, with one another. And I can't say it doesn't please me that you also think I'm fantastic; because hey, you're right. ;-)

outfit details:

shorts, vintage thrifted BCBG: $1
cardi, joe fresh style: $14
shirt, joe fresh style: $12
shoes, thrifted: $12
bracelet, tiffany & co.: gift from husband
scarf, thrifted: $3
being fantastic: all a matter of perspective

Heart: Kimberellie

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one” C.S. Lewis


18 comments:

  1. Glad you know you're fantastic, we all agree with you! I love your scarf, it's so colourful and lovely!!
    From Carys of La Ville Inconnue

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  2. I like what you said about if a person dislikes you it's because they don't understand you...how brilliant!
    I like you..and I don't even know you...but maybe it's because I understand you!!

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  3. Referencing the Bible and Orson Scott Card in the same post makes me adore you even more! :)

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  4. You are truly fantastic... and I know that. And it feels great to know that you are loved.

    I love that CS Lewis quote... yes, me too K. Hahaha!

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  5. lovely post!

    you are not only fantastic... you are awesome :) AND you have a gorgeous smile AND a gorgeous baby AND a great blog AND you are loved :D and i'm sure a million other things...

    onto your outfit...
    i love your cardi... something i really love about the print... it kind of reminds me of lattice and it's so grrly it looks like the perfect item to mix prints with. and you oxfords are the perfect summer shoe :)

    xo

    ps the last photo is soooo freakN adoreable

    pss i love constance victoria, the perfect blog obsession!!

    psss i updated my blogroll a few weeks back and added you :)

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  6. sorry about the typos, i'm a bit tired :)

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  7. Kimberelliee, while I don't know you in real life, from what I do know about you, I adore. Completely. And as you say, you know you are fantastic, so I don't need to tell you that, but it's SO refreshing to hear someone say they like themselves, you know?? I feel like so many people tear themselves down and the media doesn't help AT ALL, but it's great to hear that you think you're amazing. More people need to be like you <3

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  8. 1. That last picture is ADORABLE
    2. Your scarf! It is gorgeous! I love the colors!
    3. Especially with your hair!
    4. You are fantastic, of course ;-)

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  9. i love that verse!! doesn't it just make you feel invincible? i mean, i know that i'm not but i also have so much faith in the fact that God is and because of that i don't have to worry. you are fantastic. and so is that sweet little boy of yours :)

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  10. Wow, I am in awe of your new look. Well I know you are fantastic but I think you keep getting more fantastic by the day<3!

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  11. This is a great post. and yes, I read it all :)

    You rock for opting out of sweats and hoodies, and for bringing splashes of color wherever you go. ;)

    and you really do look so adorable in the pixie cut. SO adorable! If I thought I could look as good as you in one, I might actually go for it :D

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  12. I'm jealous of your cardigan and wish I had one like that!

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  13. Amen sister!

    I am the same. I am confident in myself and if people have a problem with that or think I am conceited, well, they just don't get it.

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  14. I PROMISE to come back and read all your words later but just wanted to say that you and bubba look absolutely GORGEOUS!! In current Brit-speak you truly are a yummy mummy.
    Vix
    xxx

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  15. I adore those adorable pictures !

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  16. Those shorts fit you so perfectly! And I don't think I've said it yet, but...the haircut is adorable!

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  17. I think you're so fab I hope to one day be worthy of being one of your 'blog obsessions of the moment' heehee :-D although it'd be hard to compete with your latest--she's pretty darn cool

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  18. I absolutely adore your outfit today! You look great :D.

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